One thing that comes up time and time again in my research with other young adults’ about their friendships is just how hard it can be to stay friends during transition periods in life. Whether it’s starting university, moving away for school or work, beginning a new relationship, planning a wedding, or even starting a family, keeping our friends close when things around us are new and somewhat chaotic isn’t always straightforward or easy to do. There’s less time to spend together and other relationships and commitments can take priority.
Finding the time to see each other and make our friendship last can be even harder when we’re in a different life stage from our friend. We might feel like they don’t quite understand what it is we’re going through, or we might have a hard time relating to their take on things. It’s also entirely possible that feelings like frustration or jealousy will come into play, which although completely normal, can make it tougher to stay close to each other.
Of course, it isn’t always difficult to maintain a friendship when we’re in different places! And so much good can come from having longstanding friends – the kind that last through thick and thin, no matter what each person is going through. But it never hurts to think about the things we can do to make it a little easier to hold on to those meaningful friendships through the ups and downs that life throws our way. Today on The Everygirl, I shared some of the things you can do to keep your friendships going when you’re in different life stages.
Is this something you’ve gone through? I’d love to hear how you’ve maintained your friendships when you’re in different places. Let me know in the comments below!