I’m going to let you in on a little secret. All couples argue. Those who say they don’t are either lying or haven’t been together long enough to experience the ups and downs that happen in any relationship.
Even though we can’t escape it, we do have a say in how conflict affects our relationship. A lot of good can come from resolving an argument or disagreement with our partner. In addition to coming up with a solution that (hopefully) works for everyone involved, it also gives us the chance to brush up on our communication skills. Successfully resolving a conflict can also help us feel more secure in our relationship.
The key is to discuss issues in a way that leaves everyone feeling like they’ve been heard and that their needs have been respected. This is, of course, easier said than done when we’re in the middle of an argument. That’s why it’s a good idea to think about the different ways we can get our point across effectively before getting into a heated discussion.
Do you have a rule about going to bed angry? Leave a comment and let me know whether these strategies (or others) have worked for you!